For a lot of us we have a perfectly balanced energy that connects us with our other half, like a silver cord that connects us to each other's inner soul. This cord needs nurturing and love to bring us closer, you know the feeling the one where you feel tingly, you fit like a hand and glove or where you look at each other and the biggest smile erupts. It is important to keep that balance but sometimes we are so caught up in the week with work, kids, housework, shopping, appointments etc that we don't always have time to just connect on a deeper level with each other and the silver cord well it can feel a little lost, with drawn, low on energy and slightly stretched. This may lead to the weekend being a wash out where we are just tired and feeling cranky, that romantic meal ends up in the dog or the babysitter cancels.
I think it is important to make time for bonding together and the extra sparkle you will feel inside will be worth it. The Bonding Magick can be done in your home and will only take 10 minutes at the most. As you set about preparing the area you are going to use you should feel a little lighter of the week's activities, it will all gradually disappear.
We are going to call upon the 4 elements plus the God Cupid and Goddess Aphrodite both of Love. You can perform this magick best when the moon is waxing or full. . You will need 4 small beeswax candles, 2 each of pink and red, a God and Goddess figure, Rose essential oil and a carrier base oil. Please read the footnote before carrying out this spell, it is at the end of the page and is with regards to anointing.
I want you to anoint 2 candles each, one pink and one red. While your doing this think of your partner and what it is about them that draws you to them, those energies will seep into the candle. Place in candle holders and put each one in the North, East, South and West, then light. Take your God & Goddess and place on the outside of the candles but facing each other. Now comes the affirmation which you can if you so choose write your own. We'll work with the female energies first, so if your the female this is your part.
Goddess
"I summon the energies of the North where Earth grounds us, our roots entwine and together go deep into Mother Earth connecting us to each other.
I summon the energies of the East where Air breathes life into both of us, the air fills our body with each other's love.
I summon the energies of the South where Fire ignites our passion for each other deep within the core of our soul.
I summon the energies of the West where Water pulls strongly at us both, bringing us together in a bonding union."
"Goddess Aphrodite I ask that you give us your blessing, that you replenish the silver cord that connects myself and my partner"
God
I summon the energies of the North where Earth grounds us, our roots entwine and together go deep into Mother Earth connecting us to each other.
I summon the energies of the East where Air breathes life into both of us, the air fills our body with each other's love.
I summon the energies of the South where Fire ignites our passion for each other deep within the core of our soul.
I summon the energies of the West where Water pulls strongly at us both, bringing us together in a bonding union."
God Cupid I ask that you give us your blessing, that you replenish the silver cord that connects myself and my partner"
Once you have both made your affirmation, take a few moments to feel the energies of the God & Goddess as well as those flowing energies sparked by you and your other half. Make yourselves comfy, pour a glass of wine, chat to each other and spend time together for even an hour. Most of all enjoy yourselves.
Footnote
*To anoint a candle add 5ml of a carrier oil such as Sweet Almond Oil to a pot you will not use for food etc or you could buy a bottle especially for mixing oils. Add 3 drops of Rose essential oil to the carrier oil. Take some cotton wool and dip into the mix, or you can use your fingers, then you want to rub it gently onto the candles always starting at the top and making a sweep in one go down the candle towards you as you are bringing the connection between you to you. Do this until the candle is covered and place in a secure candle holder. Leave the wick free from the oil.
Be careful with essential oils, check whether you can use them if your pregnant, have high blood pressure or other illnesses. Beeswax candles seem to be the quickest for burning out, if you have to leave the room then it's best to snuff them out rather than leave unattended.
© The Faery Enchantress/Rachel Curtis 10/1/12