That F Word is none other than Failure. Now, I have never liked this word especially when there are children around. Children pick up on some words more than others, they take the words in and digest them, placing them within their memory bank where it will rise up during the following years. When you tell a child they will fail and it could be aimed at anything that attracts an interest then this negative word clings onto their soul and penetrates it so deep it takes a lot of positive words to smother what should not be within a child'd mind.
And as we grow we may become excited at the new experiences that are about to come our way but when we move forward to partake what can happen......this word failure pops up from the depths of our mind and starts to play tricks on us, making us suddenly think we are not capable that we should not be making a fool out of ourselves, we then take a step back either not proceeding at all or giving half of our efforts.
I know we cannot make the world a place of cotton and candy floss and that as children we have to learn to be independant, to acknowledge the world and how hard it can be to live within that world but we also need to encourage someone to give opportunity a chance where they can be a part of the venture and learn what is needed to do a good job, to work alongside others, to care about not only themselves but those around them and to put love, laughter, fun, focus into what they do. Let's teach about how to find our strength's and how we can work with what does not come so naturally to some of us after all it is about the energies we have living within us, they can be showered in love and nurtured so we do the best we can or are those energies to be put down, neglected and starved of fresh air.
By being encouraged to take part in many things in life we can determine whether we were meant to follow that path, for instance I like to draw........matchstick people because that is all I have within me to give but that doesn't mean I should never pick up a pencil and it certainly doesn't mean I am a failure at it, I know where my strength's lay because I was encouraged to explore art as a child. We need to find a balance and we won't find it among that word failure, for a lot of us we will try many new things that come our way but we tend to know what works well and what doesn't work so well for us. Learn, explore, try, ask for help but never think your a failure because you are not.
© The Faery Enchantress/Rachel Curtis 8/1/12